As he dozed on a sofa early Saturday, Kazemi, 20, shot him in the head, then twice in the chest, then again in the head.
Before shooting herself, she sat next to his body and “tried to stage it so she would fall in his lap,” Police Chief Ronal Serpas said Wednesday at a press conference where police confirmed the deaths were a murder-suicide. She did, but her body slid to the floor and ended up at McNair’s feet. The gun was found underneath her.
Serpas said police believe McNair was asleep when he was killed.
Interviews with friends revealed that Kazemi “was spinning out of control.” She was making payments on two cars, her rent was doubling and she suspected the married McNair was having a second affair with another young woman. She told a friend Friday that “My life is a ball of (expletive) and I should end it,” Serpas said.
Police earlier had labeled McNair’s death a homicide but waited for further tests before concluding that she pulled the trigger of a 9 mm semiautomatic pistol in a condominium McNair rented with a friend.
McNair, 36, a quarterback for the Tennessee Titans most of his career, met Kazemi six months ago at a sports cafe where she was a waitress and his family often ate. She seemed happy and eager to build a life with him, but something went wrong.
“We do know that she was clearly sending a message during the last five to seven days of her life that things were going bad quickly,” Serpas said, though there was no indication she told anyone she planned to harm McNair.
Serpas said detectives learned that Kazemi recently found out about another young woman she thought McNair was romantically involved with and had even followed that woman home, though she did not confront her.
Kazemi’s family said the woman was so confident McNair was divorcing his wife of 12 years that she was preparing to sell her furniture and move in with him.
But Mike Mu, who for years has worked with McNair’s charitable association, said earlier Wednesday that McNair’s wife, Mechelle, “didn’t know who this girl is.” No records of divorce proceedings have surfaced. The McNairs have four children.
Two days before the shooting, police stopped Kazemi as she was driving a Cadillac Escalade that McNair gave her for her birthday in May. According to an arrest affidavit, Kazemi had bloodshot eyes and alcohol on her breath. She refused a breath test and told an officer “she was not drunk, she was high.” She was charged with DUI. McNair was with her but not charged. He later made her bail.
Police are awaiting toxicology reports on both bodies.
The man McNair shared the condo with discovered them Saturday and called a friend, Robert Gaddy, who arrived and called 911. Serpas said the man didn’t call 911 himself because he was in shock.
Gaddy said Wednesday that what he saw in the condo will haunt him for the rest of his life, but he was glad police made clear that his longtime friend did not suffer.
Serpas said that even though both Kazemi’s name and McNair’s were on the Cadillac’s title, she apparently was responsible for making payments. She was also making payments on another car after she couldn’t sell it.
Kazemi had no history of violence, but “on the last several days of her life it’s obvious that she made some very poor decisions,” Serpas said.
Mechelle McNair has not spoken publicly since the shooting. Bishop Joseph W. Walker III of Mount Zion Baptist Church, which the McNairs attended since 1997, said Wednesday she is doing as well as can be expected.
“Her faith is what’s sustaining her now,” he said. “We haven’t talked about the circumstances of his death. She is processing it in a private way. It’s obviously devastating on so many levels.”
A memorial service is set for tonight in Nashville, with the funeral Saturday in his native Mississippi.
The four-time Pro Bowl quarterback was remembered Wednesday at the stadium where he played much of his career. The Titans opened LP Field for fans to watch video highlights of McNair’s 13-year NFL career and look at photos of McNair. There was a book for them to write messages that will be given to the family.
McNair helped lead the 1999 Titans to the Super Bowl, where they ended up a yard short of a touchdown on the last play of the game when they trailed by seven points. He spent the last two seasons with the Baltimore Ravens before retiring last year.
